10 Reasons Why You Should Learn To Say ˜No’

Are you a people pleaser? Always saying yes when someone asks for a favour.  You feel like you will die with guilt if you say NO. The very thought of even thinking of saying NO makes you ill and causes a great deal of anxiety. You think of a thousand different ways to say NO but in the end you don’t, and yes comes out of your mouth, again. It’s always been this way for you and you’re starting to get tired of it.  You wish there was a way to end the madness and learn how to say NO, once and for all.

With endless work deadlines, social engagements, family responsibilities and the hope for some self-care, it can feel like we’re in a constant battle with time.

Learning to say no more often just might be the solution. Appreciating your need for some “me time” is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. When we can simply pause, we restore, realign, recalibrate.

And sometimes, we have to sacrifice the part of us that wants to please others in order to find time for recharging. In other words: we have to say no.

One of the most difficult things to do is to say ‘no’. People are often scared, because saying ‘yes’ is easier and it delays an awkward situation; only to raise its ugly head later. However, saying ‘no’ is really the best way to avoid further complications.

Want to know why you should learn to say no? Read on…

  1. Who needs more stress in their life?

As soon as you say yes to something you really don’t want to do, anxiety, anger and stress kicks in. Here we go again. Do you like that feeling of frustration? I didn’t think so. Try saying NO next time and notice how you feel. I guarantee it won’t be stress.  There may be a tinge of guilt, but it will pass and you will feel free.

  1. Your intuition is one of your greatest advocates.

And it can help you figure out how and why to say no. If/when you do, tapping into your intuition will help you articulate why you are choosing to say no, both to yourself and to the other person. Be respectful and to the point. And remember that some situations just aren’t meant to be. If your intuition tells you to walk away, do it. Rarely has a situation I felt uneasy about gotten better, unfortunately.

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Because it’s time you set your priorities right

 

You have to learn to accept the fact that you can’t step on multiple stones simultaneously.

4.Say goodbye to the time vampires.

These are the people that take advantage of you and suck the life out of you by constantly needing

your help. They continuously use you for gain because they are too afraid to do things themselves. Get rid of them. They will have to grow up one day.

5.You will never be able please everyone.

If there are people who will sever ties with you because you need to say no to something, let them go. Your true blue friends, family and respected colleagues will understand. It’s simply a fact that you will never be able to please every being in the universe. So fill your universe with those bright, supportive souls.

  1. Builds up your confidence

Saying no at the right time, will boost your confidence. You stood up for what’s right.

7.Teach someone a valuable lesson.

If you are always helping Sally out of a jam, she will never learn how to deal with difficulties and situations as they arise. When you allow her to figure it out on her own, she will grow, learn and be stronger. Say NO and kindly direct her to a resource that she can use to help herself.

8.Practicing your no will help clarify your needs.

Most of us we reach a stage in your life where there are simply more pressing demands. Mortgages, children, aging parents, graduate school bills and as much as we would like we simply don’t have the bandwidth to say yes. What would you like to never ever have to do again? Grab a piece of paper and write it down. Review the paper. Then get rid of it. Burn it in your kitchen sink. In other words, let it go.

9.Keeps your health in check and keeps the glow on your face intact

When you can’t say ‘no’ and fail to give yourself enough sleep, simply coz you’re busy finishing all the extra work you said yes to, will take a major negative toll on your health.

10.Being assertive is a great trait to have.

When we learn how to assert ourselves properly, our self-confidence grows which, in turn, attracts more like minded people. Assertively saying NO makes us feel like we have control of our lives again. That’s a good thing. Careful not to mistake it for aggressiveness.

Do you have a hard time saying NO? How does it make you feel when you do? Share your thoughts below.

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