11 Things Everyone Should Expect In A Relationship!



When you first start dating someone, it can feel like you want to tell each other everything. Whether you’re out on a date, or lying in bed texting until 2 a.m., the convo never seems to die down as you ask questions and tell stories. But eventually, there will be things you should tell your new partner that don’t come out as easily, and aren’t as much fun to talk about.

Most of the people are confused nowadays regarding their rights in love. They don’t know what to expect from their partner. This confusion in their mind sometimes results in such a stupidity by them which finally ends up your relationship in a disastrous way.

There are certain basics and rights which you must know and therefore keep your love life always happy going.

If your goals don’t totally line up with your partner’s, that’s OK. In most cases, there’s plenty of room for compromise. But when it comes to major, life-changing goals for the future — like having kids, or getting married — it’s not always easy to meet each other halfway.

And the sooner you can figure them out, the better. Speaking about having kids, life coach Jaya Jaya Myra tells Bustle, “It’s not a desire you can just shelve and expect it to go away.” Getting ahead of whether or not you differ on dealbreakers now will prevent a lot of aggravation and potential disappointment in the future.

  1. Affection

A relationship is not just about showing love by words or behaviour but physical affection such as kisses and hugs is also very important in a relationship to keep the romance alive in it. So you should always expect this as it is your right as well as important for your relationship.

  1. Compassion

You can expect your partner  to be tender with you. When you are hurt or are in pain then your should understand it. Of course, he or she cannot read your mind but should feel that you are not fine as this will make your love go deeper.

  1. Respect

Respect is something which can not be begged but it comes itself from within. You should respect your partner and in turn expects him or her to respect you as there is no meaning to be in a relation in which there is no respect. Respect for each other by partners is a sign of a healthy relationship.

4The Mental Health Issues You May Be Struggling With

to admit? Mental health issues. There’s a lot of stigma surrounding them, so it can be difficult to share what you’ve been through, especially if you’re worried your significant other might freak out or leave. But if they’re a good partner, and an understanding person, telling them will only make your relationship stronger.

“Mental health issues interfere with your ability to be present and find enjoyment in life,” Hershenson says. Once you tell your partner, they might be more understanding when mental health issues may be causing the interference, and may even help see you through.

5How Your Family Handled Love, Anger, Etc.

How your family handled big emotions — like anger — can shed some light on how you might act in your relationship going forward. “This isn’t a crystal ball, but it does provide insight into the programming and modeling [you may have] experienced,” therapist Jessi Leader, MA, LAMFT, tells Bustle.

So share what you’ve been through, and ask your partner to share, too. “This gives the couple an opportunity to take inventory of what they liked and didn’t like about their unique model of partnerships,” Leader says. “Having conversations about your values, what you want to change, and what your definition of an active partnership is is incredibly important to longevity and health in a relationship.”

6How Good (Or Bad) You May Be With Money

Money has a tendency to make or break a relationship, so try to get yourselves on the same page regarding things like debt and spending habits as soon as possible. “Just like sex, talking about our relationship with money can also be very vulnerable,” sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet tells Bustle. “Sex and money are the ‘third rail’ of relationships. There are often expectations around money (e.g. who pays for dinner, vacations, etc.). To establish trust in the relationship it’s important to have these conversations upfront.”

7Your List Of Allergies Or Dietary Restrictions

This one may sound weird, but since a lot of relationships revolve almost entirely around food — dinner dates, brunches, snacks while watching Netflix — you should chat about allergies ASAP. As Backe says, “It is not the sexiest topic in the world, I know, but it needs to be addressed sooner rather than later.” This’ll save your partner from spending all night cooking a dinner that you can’t even eat. But more importantly, it can help prevent dangerous situations.

8Health Issues That Impact Your Life

If you have something chronic going on, it may be tempting to hide it or put on a brave face for the sake of your partner. But if you want or need support, they should know. “Diseases which affect your day-to-day are something you may want to bring up, should the situation present itself,” Backe says. “In any event, don’t try to cover it up. If you are serious in your desire to pursue a meaningful connection, your partner will find out anyway. Might as well be on your terms, and in your own words.”

9Any Situation With An Ex That May Still Affect You

If you think you’ve got some baggage that might come back to haunt you, it might be a good idea to tell your partner. “Shedding light on past relationships will help your partner better understand what does and doesn’t work for you,” Pailet says. “Sharing the lessons that you learned from these relationships will also open up a discussion about your own relationship challenges and hopefully enlist your partner as an ally in your desire to not repeat negative behaviors and patterns.”

10Whether Or Not You’ve Been In Love Before

If you’re both new to this whole dating thing, you might want to update each other on whether or not you’ve ever been in love. “This one is tricky, but if you really like someone and want to build a strong relationship, it’s important you both understand where you are on the love spectrum and if you’ve ever been deeply in love before,” says Myra. “You may learn you relate to love differently, or learn not so subtle clues about how to effectively navigate your relationship for the better.”

11The Things You Need In Order To Be Happy

Do you require a decent amount of alone time in order to decompress? Do you kind of need nine hours of sleep, and hate to be woken up? Are you all about hugs, or do you prefer some more space? Tell your partner what you need to be happy, so they can better understand you.

“This is not meant to be exhaustive, and part of the fun of a new relationship is finding out things about each other,” says Pailet. “But it’s really helpful for your partner to know some critical pieces of information around your comfort and safety. The more self aware you both are, the more you can trust each other’s judgment.”

The beginning of your relationship is the perfect time to be honest and open withthese things. And the more info you give each other, the easier it’ll be to have a healthy, happy, supportive situation going forward.




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