The Gone Girls
I am writing this on the eve of International women’s day
All these ads and marketing gimmicks I see surrounding women’s day would not work if we do not have women or girls. I am referring to the disturbing sex ratio to understand this better sex ratio is the number of females per 1000 of males. The sex ratio in India was almost normal during the times of Independence. But the major cause of decrease of the female birth ratio in India is due to the violent treatments meted out to the girl child at the time of birth. Though there are signs of commendable improvement. The cause of concern is the state of Haryana. According to the census 2011, there are states like Kerala which has a healthy sex ratio which can be attributed to the fact that Kerala has a good literacy rate which also means that, most people are aware and educated when compared to Haryana where it’s still backward. Inadequate education is the main reason for the gender bias. Pondicherry and Kerala have the maximum number of females while the regions of Haryana, Daman and Diu have the lowest density of the female population.
The Indian census data
suggests there is a positive correlation between abnormal sex ratio and better socioeconomic status and literacy. The government has passed the Preconception and Prenatal diagnostic techniques act in 1994 to ban and punish prenatal sex screening and female feticide. Its currently illegal to determine or disclose the sex of the fetus to anyone but this act has been poorly enforced by authorities.
The patriarchal mindset, the fabric of the society which treats daughters as Paraya Dhan, social vice like dowry system all leads to the injustice meted out to females at a very young age. The need for a son to carry the name forward is a wrong notion which is widely believed and being practised. This unhealthy treatment would lead to the boys thinking themselves to be superior and taking their rights and freedom for granted. They also feel that it’s their birthright to oppress and belittle women which can be seen in the alarming cases of crime against women. Not just molestation and rape but cyber crimes and online harassing of women is also on the rise leading to the perception. With the advancement of technology, only the medium has changed mentality is still backward and regressive, from the streets now they have come to the digital platform that is all.
The problem is deep-rooted and anything done superficially is not going to have any effect. As can be seen, law enforcement is not strict there are many loopholes and criminals take advantage of this fact. But the biggest problem is sometimes not the perpetrator but the victim herself who under the fear of being humiliated or ostracized decides to remain silent as opposed to fighting against injustice. Well in cases the girl or woman shows courage she is immediately shamed her clothes to her upbringing and lifestyle becomes a matter of public concern and she is judged and sadly blamed for inviting attention to herself as if she asked for it. She is not safe in her family as we can see the rise in the case of incest and child molestation nor is she safe in the school.
Who’s to blame?
We cannot pinpoint a single reason. The lack of education and awareness, poverty, the social and moral fabric of the society to name a few. Education without moral ethics will be a waste. A man is not educated and truly modern if he disrespects women and treats her as an inferior being. The main responsibility of parents is to inculcate good values in their children. There are cases of men in senior levels specializing in any field with good academic record and credentials but losing everything owing to sexual harassment allegations, as we saw in the #metoo movement but here I am talking of the genuine cases, not the fabricated ones owing to personal or professional vendetta, what is the use of your degree or education when you fall from grace? As they say charity begins at home it’s the responsibility of each and every member of the family to inculcate the values in children they will learn not by talks but by imitation, they will do exactly what they see and they will bring these to the outside world where they will learn and work in the future ,it’s the thoughts, ideas and behaviour which make a person truly rich not materialistic possessions. The core values speak out your lineage and upbringing more than your wealth or fame as the whole world came to know about a certain famous cricketing star on a popular chat show. His cheap upbringing and thinking was put to the forefront and was outright repulsive to any sane sensible and respectable viewer.
To conclude I wish to say that we need to correct our foundation, create awareness, educate about the unhealthy and dangerous outcomes of low female to male ratio. We need stricter and harsher laws and their effective enforcement, better safety for women irrespective of whether its day or night. We need more women entrepreneurs, we need women to set aside their differences and work together, women uplifting other women, more initiatives which can help women earn their income without depending on others hence reduce the chances of exploitation. Create an effective and safe workforce for women. We just need some respect and dignity and a safe and healthy environment for us as well the girls we give birth to in the future. We need to bloom in order to give rise to a healthy and progressive society. We do not want to be worshipped or given special treatment just acknowledging and encouraging our efforts however small they may be is more than enough and I think I can speak for the most of them at least. So to all the women out there let the world celebrate your inner strength and please to all women to channelize the power which you possess from within as it truly comes from inside not outside.
Ref: Census 2011.co.in
Female feticide in India, Wikipedia