I am very familiar with the feeling of getting upset irrespective of the reason. Sometimes there isn’t even a reason to start with. So, as someone who has had first-hand experience with such feelings, you might want to take notes from me so that you don’t make mistakes I made and hurt people you love and care about like I did/do.
- Take a deep breath: A friend suggested that every time I feel I`m losing my temper, getting upset or short with somebody, she told me to close my eyes, count down from ten and take a deep breath. This gives me a little time to think before I speak.
- Excuse yourself from the situation: I am very familiar with the feeling of getting upset irrespective of the reason. Sometimes there isn’t even a reason to start with. So, as someone who has had first-hand experience with such feelings, you might want to take notes from me so that you don’t make mistakes I made and hurt people you love and care about like I did/do.
- Remember it won’t matter after 2 minutes: 2 minutes or let’s say a day later, it won’t even matter who said what and how. So, think before you act.
- Don’t take everything to heart: Friends mean well. They might be loud, quiet or over-excited. But they always mean well. If they crack jokes, make fun of the way you talk, either you deal with it, join in the fun or if you dislike it a lot then ask them to stop. They are your friends. They’ll understand.
- Remember they won’t all take your Sh*t: Nobody is paid to take the crap you throw. So, if they are constantly standing beside you and comforting you, remember that everybody has a breaking point. You do not want to be the one who pushes their buttons. Be nice, explain yourself. Explain your situation.
- Chill: I’ve been told this many times, but never did it. Just chill out. Stop burdening yourself with over-thinking and over-analyzing.
- Do what makes you smile: If eating an ice cream or drinking a peg of whiskey makes you smile, do it. Coloring, art, crafts, movies, music, spending time with certain people, spending time with yourself. Do what you wish for half an hour and see if it makes you feel better.
- Sorry is an excuse: Just because the people around you accept your apology you cannot use it an excuse to hurt then time and again with the way you behave. Stop making excuses for the way you act. Try to understand what is the root of the cause. Why do you feel the way you do? Blaming another person for your sorrow or your health/emotional issues will do nobody good.
So, if you need help, ask for it. Talk to your parents. Talk to a friend who cares enough to listen. If you think only counseling can help you understand whatever emotional turmoil you are going through, search for counselors. The internet has no limit. Make use of it. Call up professionals. Do not settle for less. When it is about you, never settle for less.