Things you need to know about the word ‘NO’

Things you need to know about the word ‘NO’

In this generation,  saying ‘no’ is an important word to use and implement. It is a highly underrated word if you were to ask me and every person should have been taught this word since they could speak.

As you get older, you realise that the things, situations and people you say no to say a lot about your personality, your views and your standing in the society. You should not refuse to do things that are expected out of you, for example, you cannot slack off your studies or work, you cannot refuse to help your friend just because you feel lazy, you cannot disrespect people unless they genuinely deserve it e.t.c. 

But, for some people saying ‘NO” to any situation or person is a mammoth task.

We were born in a society where saying ‘no’ was equivalent to insulting or disrespecting the denied person. Society sure does need to work on its self-esteem if such a small word as NO can shatter their ‘ego’ in pieces. 

No is a word which should not be used carelessly or with uncertainty. A ‘no’ means a direct denial to the question. It does not mean that coercion is in order or emotional blackmail will do the trick or, the most obvious, use of authority.  Every gender has a right to say ‘no’ to anything or anyone.

Here are some tricks on how to say a firm ‘NO’

1.       Say it as soon as you decide

Even if you have told a friend you will think about it, do not ages to say just one word.  It is not a shameful thing to say ‘no’.  Say it as soon as you know that you will be unable to do it. Do not leave the person hanging hoping he/she will not ask again.

2.      Give a brief explanation

Remember one thing extremely clearly, your time, your resources, your abilities and your skills are yours to primarily use. You are not obliged to be of service to everyone even when you do not want to, especially then.  You are not required to give an explanation for saying ‘no’ unless you feel that the said person deserves it. Even then you do not need to write a 500 words e-mail explaining to them the circumstances that have left you with no choice but to deny their request.  You can, however, give them a brief explanation along the lines of ‘swamped at work’ or ‘will be away on a vacation’ or ‘certain pressing issues’.  

3.      Be firm

Do not change your mind after saying ‘no’ due to some form of guilt. There is nothing wrong with what you did and this will not damage your relationship. I can assure you that saying ‘no’ is better than saying ‘yes’ and inevitably sabotaging the task due to your disinterest. The person probably prefers someone who is whole-heartedly ready to do it so you have done them a favour by accepting that you do not consider their task or situation a priority.


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